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Passion Fruit Living E-seminar

Passion Fruit Living: The E-Seminar

Hello there, this is Laura.

The picture is of my sis and me – when she got married last June!

I developed Passion Fruit Living: The E-seminar with one purpose in mind: to get you living a  happier, more relaxed and authentic (meaning it reflects YOU) life – your way! You want to know clearly what you want, what you don’t want, and the kick-butt confidence to implement those intentions. In other words, I’m sharing the process that helped me get my life back on track after a devastating separation in 2005 that led to an unwanted divorce. I’m now living the life I thought would be impossible, in my fantasy location: near the beach, active culture and surrounded by beauty, warmth and good shopping!

I know you’re super busy so I’m keeping this short…

This is what you get with Passion Fruit Living: The E-seminar.

  • An interactive e-mail workshop March 22 through May 7, 2010.
  • Do it on your schedule, from your home or office.
  • 7 weeks of insights arriving Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays in an attractive and easy-to-follow format.
  • Step out of the paradigm of not feeling appreciated.
  • Move forward on your most valued projects.
  • Flexible assignments for personalized compassionate and objective feedback.
  • Guidelines for making tiny changes that cause huge impact.
  • A chance to focus and reflect on what’s really going on in your life.
  • Opportunity to sift through priorities to determine what’s really important to you right now.
  • Support in identifying and letting go of energy drains.
  • Communicate more clearly and confidently.
  • 100% money-back guarantee for first 2 weeks of the course – no questions.
  • AND I’m offering 3 options for 3 different prices!

It’s also a ton of fun….in a stringing beads kind of way. Productive and rewarding.

How to register: It’s easy. Normally this course would cost at least $250, well, actually far more than that! However, I know a lot of you are in a tight spot so I’m offering it right now for much less!

Choose from these 3 PASSION FRUIT LIVING: The E-seminar options:

FRUGALISTA: I almost didn’t offer this one – it’s like showing you a huge fruit salad and only serving you a tiny bit. BUT…for years I struggled with investing in myself and this program is for those of you who tend to feel guilty when you take care of yourself. For only $90 you get 3 weeks of the 7-week program. It’s a great start and I know you’ll see how fast investing in yourself pays off.

BELLISIMA: the full 7-week program. Essentially it’s an intro to coaching – you get personalized feedback and help for your specific situation and goals. Normal price is $220 – get if now for only $170. Space is limited – because I work with a few people to give them my full attention.

PRECIOSA: Hold my hand! This is my kind of program – one with close personal contact. It  includes on top of the 7-week email program, 2 private 20-minute coaching calls. Coaching is the most powerful tool to transform your life fast! The email component of the program enables you to LEVERAGE those coaching calls because you’ve already done the preparation! My coach told me to charge $500 for this, but you know me – I’m offering it for $320. This time only ;-)

If you want to pay by check, email me at mixonian@gmail.com and I will send you the mailing address. Otherwise, use PayPal on Mixonian blog — it’s on the right column.

I can’t overemphasize that the number of participants is limited to a handful. I prefer to work with fewer people at a time in order to really connect with them. Family is my top priority so I limit the number of hours I work each week. Once you register, I’ll let you know what materials you’ll need.

If your check arrives after the course fills, fear not, I will return it to you right away!

Use the Power of Your Pen to Propel Yourself Forward

(NOTE: The new web site is just about ready. Click here to see it.)

One option would be to write an international bestseller and make a windfall.

But that’s only one way to leverage your journal.

If you’re like most high-achieving women, you  know you’re not motivated by money, really. You value wealth, not as a status symbol, but for what it can do for the people in your life. That’s why so many new micro-loan programs for developing countries are geared towards women; they’re more productive with the money they earn.

On the other hand, it’s the lack of wealth that keeps you from doing a lot of things you’d like to do for yourself, your family and your community.

You also know that, while you’ve got so much to be grateful for, you’ve got a much bigger contribution to make.

So, let’s make it happen.

Before I explain this tool for creating wealth, I want to remind you how powerful our minds are. The most recent issue of Forbes features an excellent article on the incredible power of placebos. It turns out that placebos are even more powerful for relieving pain and nausea than previously realized. Researchers have done brain scans showing that the same chemical reaction takes place in the brains of the drug recipients AND the placebo recipients. Another finding is that patients respond favorably to rituals as part of a medical treatment. No joke!

In the spring of 2008, I began using my journal seriously to create a better life for me and my children. I had been writing in my journal before then, but I learned from an e-course I was taking that I really could script a more attractive future. And how much fun is that!

One of the things I was most clear about was that I wanted to move. I wasn’t sure where, but I knew I wanted to be in the South, near a body of water, and I wanted NEW kitchen and laundry appliances. If you look at my vision boards, they are covered with pictures of the ocean, swimming pools, the Mediterranean Sea, water is everywhere. There’s other stuff too, like a fancy new vacuum cleaner, but it’s clear I crave being near water.

But it was the new kitchen and laundry appliances that really captured my imagination. I was living in this ueber charming cottage, a delightful relic from a time where having one bathroom was considered more than enough. (No need for an outhouse!) And my stove was identical to the one on the “I Love Lucy” television program. The dryer, a nice avocado green, had to be cajoled into working. It did dry the clothes, but you had to ask it nicely.

So I began to write about my ideal home. And new kitchen and laundry appliances were always at the top of my list. Having 3 bathrooms was my  next priority.

Well, there’s not space here for the whole story, but on August 16 of last year, I moved into a recently-remodeled swanky condo (there are plenty of ponds with fountains on the grounds ) in an upscale part of Charleston. There is a fantastic beach exactly 5 miles from my house, and there’s a pool here as well.

We also have 3 bathrooms, for the 3 females living here.

You have the same power to manifest good things in your life. It’s a matter of being intentional about it.

Have you used writing to manifest good things in your life?

New Web Site for Mixonian Ready on Saturday!

My wonderful Web Guy, Bob of Fuelblue, asked me not to post any more until the new super blog is ready on Saturday. Please come back then!

See you soon!

How to Be Lazy or…Laziness Boot Camp for Overachievers

I used to be crazy busy all the time; it was my way of living. Some of us think that we’re not serving to our full capacity if we’re not in constant motion. Probably it’s part of that Puritan work ethic that still permeates our culture.

I still have many busy days, but I balance them with lots of lazy stretches, from an hour off to a full week-end of vegetation. The big shift is to enjoy and see the value in time off, rather than feeling guilty for not being busy.

Showing my clients how to take time to do nothing, or time to have fun, is a big part of my coaching. The tool I’m sharing with you in this blog post works every single time. And it’s free.

Personally, I have two coaches for this: Prince, the toy poodle, and my teenage son. If my son were any more relaxed than he already is, he’d be in a coma. I think most dogs are accomplished nap coaches, so if a canine shares your space, take a laziness cue from him.

Why has being lazy become so important to me? Entrepreneurs and mothers are supposed to burn the candle at both ends and that was my modus operandi for years! I was proud to be exhausted and burned out.

Here’s the thing. Perpetual motion keeps you in a rut. There can be no breakthrough without R and R.

That’s why my word to serve as my theme for 2010 is “ease.” I’ve had a lot of fun with it, especially with my teaching.

If you’re new to laziness, you need to know that, like any other life skill, it takes practice to attain mastery.

Here’s your basic laziness training exercise:

Take 15 minutes to do nothing.

Doing nothing means no thinking, no reading, no texting, no talking, no praying, no worrying, no listening to your Ipod…not even reading this blog. You just gotta sit there and be a vegetable for 15 minutes. Set a timer on your cell phone, in case you fall asleep. ;-)

You’ll hate it at first. Feels unproductive, almost unAmerican.

Stick with it. Your mind will try to convince you that this is the first step on the path to a mental breakdown. It’s not.

Do this at least 5 times a week.

Here’s what you’ll get from doing 15 minutes of nothing on a regular basis:

You relax.

You smile.

Your creativity activates.

You feel so much better. And other people will notice!

Learning to activate your own “pause” button is a powerful tool to experience breakthroughs in your life. Try it and share what happens.

You’ll have to excuse me now, it’s time for me to do nothing. ;-)

The One Thing You Can Always Do For Yourself Right Now

This is one of the many techniques I’ve learned to relax and move forward in my life. It’s truly made a HUGE difference (ask my kids!) I learned it from coach Christine Kane, who used it as part of the process of healing her bulimia.

It works if you’re overwhelmed, confused, tired, or if you feel awry and you’re not sure why.

It’s a question you ask yourself:

What do I need to do to feel better in this very moment? That means right now.

Maybe you need to go to the bathroom.

Maybe you need a healthy snack.

Maybe you need to take a nap.

Maybe you need a bubble bath.

Maybe you need to organize and plan  your week.

Maybe it’s budgeting your expenses for the month.

Maybe you need to drink a glass of water.

Maybe you need to turn off the cell phone.

Maybe you need to close the door to your office.

Maybe you need to allocate time for returning phone calls.

Maybe you need to ask for help.

Maybe you need to clean out that drawer in your kitchen.

Maybe you need to find your journal and write in it.

Maybe you need to look at the sky.

Maybe you need to remind yourself that you’re doing your best each and every day.

Maybe you need to sign up for Laura’s Authentic Wealth Creation for Women Only E-Course. (Sorry, couldn’t resist. It’s not even ready yet.)

The thing is, asking yourself this one little question gets you out of your drama, your hurt and possible confusion. It can also help you heal.

So many times we’re too busy remembering our tale of woe, how life is passing us by, how blah blah blah. This question snaps off the circuit of repeated unhelpful thinking and ruminating. It’s even good to ask when things are going fine because asking this gets you in the present moment and aware.

Put it in your cell phone, write it in your agenda. Email yourself the question.

What do you need in this very moment? What would make you feel better right now?

What Really and Truly Keeps Women Away from Pay Parity

Okay. I’m warning you. This post is not politically correct.

Yesterday I spent a lot of time reading student blog posts. I really enjoyed that and got a better idea of what they think and how they think.

The big surprise to me was reading about women being marginalized. Some of these female students feel oppressed because they are female. The evidence they give is the statistic about women earning less than men for the same job.

It may be true that women often earn less than men for the same job, otherwise why would 75%  of the recent job cuts go to men? They’re more expensive.

The answer though is not really men oppressing women, as least in the United States.

I thought that poor horse had been pummeled to death already.

Consider the examples of how the following women treat themselves. I’m not condemning them, I used to do similar things myself. But, the fact is, in 2010 women still do things like….

- Make the beds for their teen-age sons.

- Divorce an alcoholic husband and then move in with an alcoholic boyfriend.

- Work 60 hours a week when paid for 40 hours, “because that’s what it takes to get the job done.”

- Put gasoline in the BMW while teenage son watches, listening to his Ipod.

- Won’t allow the husband to change diapers for the twins because he doesn’t do it right.

- Fail to take care of their health because they’re “too busy.”

Are you gonna tell me that these women are marginalized? Or are they marginalizing themselves?

I used to subordinate my input into daily decisions to my husband’s wishes on a regular basis. Just one example, I never thought of the income I earned as “mine” and never spent much of it on myself. The thing is, then I resented hardly ever having new clothes and was perpetually waiting for permission to buy them.

Now, there is a nobility in service to others. But only when it comes from joy and strength, not when one’s self-worth depends on outside approval.

If you don’t deeply value yourself, how can you expect others to value you? What do you think about this?