Impeccability of the word can lead you to personal freedom, to huge success and abundance; it can take away all fear and transform it into joy and love.
— Don Miguel Ruiz, Author of The Four Agreements
That’s a huge claim Ruiz makes.
The above quote is taken from my favorite chapter of Jack Canfield’s book, The Success Principles. It’s about how language choices affect our experiences.
Impeccable speech means using words such as affirmations, and any form of encouragement, appreciation, love, acceptance, possibility, and vision.
According to this concept of speaking with impeccability, truly successful people always speak with integrity and choose to express themselves with words that:
– affirm the innate value of oneself and others
– build self confidence
– build positive relationships
– build inspiring dreams
The most fascinating aspect of choosing words is the realization that your words have such a multiplier effect in the world. When you speak to someone, what you express certainly produces an effect in that person, and also in you.
Here is how Canfield suggests that we speak with impeccability:
– Make a commitment to be impeccable in your speech when talking to others.
– Make an effort to appreciate something about every person you interact with.
– Make a commitement to tell the truth, as best you can, in all your interactions and dealings with others. Make a commitment to do it for 1 days, then 2 days in a row, then a whole week. If you falter, start over. Keep building that muscle.
– Make it the intention of every interaction with others that you uplift them in some small way. Notice how you feel when you do that (145).
Keeping these ideals (or “norms” in PhD-speak) is having a positive effect on my teaching. Review these suggestions frequently and see how your interactions get better.