Passion Fruit Writing: Exercise 3, Day 1

Week Three: Make Your Life So You!

Writing runs through my life like a river. There is always the sound of it, sometimes louder than others, as when the Rio Grande, my neighboring river, is made loud and raucous with the floods of melting snow. Other times it is quieter, a sort of plash, plash, plash. Sometimes it is so quiet, I need to move closer to hear the flow, but the flow is always there, always a companion. –Julia Cameron.

It is not how much we have but how much we enjoy that makes happiness.  —Charles Haddon Spurgeon.

Don’t you love it when you sport a new purse, or wear a new outfit, and a friend says, “Oh, that is so YOU!”

That’s how your whole life should be… YOU! Even if you have a demanding job, 9 kids, 5 dogs, an unemployed husband and all sorts of craziness, your life is meant to reflect the unique gift that you are. No one else can express your perspective your way. And there are some people out there who can only receive that message from you. In other words, your life is an essential part of the puzzle.

That contribution and happiness is what gets lost in overcommitments, being pulled in too many different directions, or living with too much stress. That’s what Passion Fruit Writing (and the e-course) are all about: putting more of you into your life.

Let’s start by reflecting on what’s working really well in your life right at this very moment. Think about your life as it is presently constituted, and write down 2 Things That Work Really Well for Me.

Here’s an example from my life.

Since I became a mother, that part of my life has truly been easy and effortless. My kids have been delightful and I have not worried about their friends, grades or health. So that’s a big part of my life that has always worked well for me. I can’t say the same for every other part of my life.

Another part of my life that is working really well for me now, and has for much of my life, is my cooking. I love to cook and eat. Still, there was a long time in which cooking felt like a burden and I didn’t enjoy it very much or do it well. That was a sign that my life was out of kilter, but I didn’t pay any attention to it until everything fell apart for me. It was only then that I realized major adjustments were needed.

For some time I got away from cooking by having other people do that for me. As my life has become more on track (or more me,) I’m back to relishing recipes from my chef friend, Nancy Waldek, reading Bon Appetit, and taking occasional cooking classes.

You can see what’s working well in your life, and use that knowledge to rearrange other parts of your life to better suit you.

In retrospect, I have been able to see why my relationships with my children and my cooking worked so well, and transfer that same attitude to other areas of my life. This process has brought quantum improvement to my personal and professional lives. I know you can have the same experience, once you get clear about what you want.

What  2 things in your life are working really well for you?

Please share one or more by writing in the comment box below this article. Thanks! It’s so much fun to hear from you all.

3 responses to “Passion Fruit Writing: Exercise 3, Day 1

  1. Hi Laura!

    I found this exercise particularly valuable and interesting and pondered this exercise all week.
    I have been in transition and out of work for a year. I had initially put so much focus on sitting at my computer and desperately looking for a job that didn’t really suit me. Then I realized that I needed to do something with my time that honored the time I did have off and to do something that reflected who I was.

    So I began working more diligently on my greeting cards and now have a website that displays my photography and the greeting cards I handcraft. I also began to blog about what I know best (aromatherapy and feng shui) and then I began working on my granddaughter’s scrapbook — When I pass on, it will be a true work of love and art that will be passed onto her.

    It has been through these projects, that I have found a greater affinity for who I am and things that really work for me — because they reflect what I truly am! Thank you Laura.


    • Kathleen, thank you so much for sharing. What wonderful results you created! What you are doing sometimes feels countercultural — like we should always be looking for a job if we don’t have one. I found out that good things come to me when I am focused on my own gifts and contribution. Take care! And your blog is lovely and useful!

  2. Laura, Thank you for your words of encouragement!

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