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Use the Power of Your Pen to Propel Yourself Forward

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One option would be to write an international bestseller and make a windfall.

But that’s only one way to leverage your journal.

If you’re like most high-achieving women, you  know you’re not motivated by money, really. You value wealth, not as a status symbol, but for what it can do for the people in your life. That’s why so many new micro-loan programs for developing countries are geared towards women; they’re more productive with the money they earn.

On the other hand, it’s the lack of wealth that keeps you from doing a lot of things you’d like to do for yourself, your family and your community.

You also know that, while you’ve got so much to be grateful for, you’ve got a much bigger contribution to make.

So, let’s make it happen.

Before I explain this tool for creating wealth, I want to remind you how powerful our minds are. The most recent issue of Forbes features an excellent article on the incredible power of placebos. It turns out that placebos are even more powerful for relieving pain and nausea than previously realized. Researchers have done brain scans showing that the same chemical reaction takes place in the brains of the drug recipients AND the placebo recipients. Another finding is that patients respond favorably to rituals as part of a medical treatment. No joke!

In the spring of 2008, I began using my journal seriously to create a better life for me and my children. I had been writing in my journal before then, but I learned from an e-course I was taking that I really could script a more attractive future. And how much fun is that!

One of the things I was most clear about was that I wanted to move. I wasn’t sure where, but I knew I wanted to be in the South, near a body of water, and I wanted NEW kitchen and laundry appliances. If you look at my vision boards, they are covered with pictures of the ocean, swimming pools, the Mediterranean Sea, water is everywhere. There’s other stuff too, like a fancy new vacuum cleaner, but it’s clear I crave being near water.

But it was the new kitchen and laundry appliances that really captured my imagination. I was living in this ueber charming cottage, a delightful relic from a time where having one bathroom was considered more than enough. (No need for an outhouse!) And my stove was identical to the one on the “I Love Lucy” television program. The dryer, a nice avocado green, had to be cajoled into working. It did dry the clothes, but you had to ask it nicely.

So I began to write about my ideal home. And new kitchen and laundry appliances were always at the top of my list. Having 3 bathrooms was my  next priority.

Well, there’s not space here for the whole story, but on August 16 of last year, I moved into a recently-remodeled swanky condo (there are plenty of ponds with fountains on the grounds ) in an upscale part of Charleston. There is a fantastic beach exactly 5 miles from my house, and there’s a pool here as well.

We also have 3 bathrooms, for the 3 females living here.

You have the same power to manifest good things in your life. It’s a matter of being intentional about it.

Have you used writing to manifest good things in your life?


A More Fruitful Way to Look At Things

Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.

–Wayne Dyer

I read that quote from Dr. Dyer at least a year ago and I’m just now getting its meaning….some people are slow learners!

I’m understanding this message better these days because I’m seeing the results of my focus on looking for more things and situations to appreciate in my life. You know the saying, The more you appreciate, the more you have to appreciate. Appreciating things usually involves looking at things in your life differently.

Example: Instead of seeing myself at the low end of the academic food chain, I see myself as among the top earners per/hour in academia. Why? Not researching, not doing many committees. I like it this way. This change affects the way I feel at work, and affects the way I am perceived.

Example: Instead of letting my daughters’ bickering get on my nerves, I see it as an indication they are happy and healthy. While there are still limits on my bickering tolerance, I’m usually happy to allow freedom of expression and to allow them to work things out. And when I do interfere, then they both turn on me for “taking things too seriously.” Seeing their interaction as a sign of normality, not the desire to annoy me, enables me to feel much  more relaxed, to the benefit of the whole family.

Example: This happens with a lot of my clients who work with me to overcome speaking anxiety. They usually see their audience members as Gestapo-officers-in-disguise, examining every breath they take and desconstructing each sentence. When I remind them that most people have so much on their minds anyway, they aren’t paying THAT close attention to any speaker. This shift in the way my clients see their audience has an instant impact on the confidence level. With one change in perspective, a person becomes a relaxed, far more effective communicator. I love to watch that process.

If you’d like to see a change in your life, look at the situation with a fresh perspective. Happy Friday!

How to See Hidden Opportunity

You’ve probably heard about how some clever people find these incredible opportunities amidst financial chaos to make fortunes. If you’re like me, you look around, and you’re not so sure.

I’ve learned that many times it’s a matter of asking different questions. And still, sometimes I don’t know the right question to ask, either.

But….I know some people see things that I can’t see.

My dentist can see a cavity in my own mouth before I know it’s there.

My cousin Michael can tell from looking at a blueprint if the building can survive a hurricane or not. All I see are blue lines.

An artist, like my sister, can see undertones in a color that I don’t see, until they’re pointed out to me.

A gem expert can see flaws in my diamond ring that I don’t notice.

My friend Ruben can hear things in a concert that I can’t hear. I’ve heard him and other professional musicians talk about “phrasing” and I still do not hear that.

A financial expert can see problems and opportunities from a company’s financial statements that I can’t see (my last-century MBA notwithstanding.)

A plastic surgeon can make changes of 1 millimeter in a person’s face that make that person look more like the ideal.

So, you can think of so many examples yourself. What’s the point?

Just because you don’t see a golden opportunity, or ten or a hundred, does not mean there are not plenty of opportunities out there in front of your nose.

Maybe you’re not asking the right questions. A new perspective can really help shed light on a situation.

Try talking to an expert, or even becoming one.

You have under-utilized resources and opportunities at hand that you can leverage, but you have to detect their existence first.

Adult Games

Naturally, Mixonian is referring to games for adults to enhance productivity and enlightenment!

Crafty Sally explains her Project Cup Game:

Last week, because I had sooooo many projects going on and I wanted to do them ALL, I wrote each one on a little piece of paper, folded it up, and put it in a cup. Every day I was so excited to get home, get my chores done, and pull a project out of that cup to work on. Each project was a reward!

When that was finished I could pull out another project. So what did I accomplish last week? I got labels made and attached to 8 quilts, made and attached hanging sleeves to 7 quilts, made a bed bench, a window pane mirror, 3 little pillows for the bed bench, 3 silverware windchimes, and finished the Sister Chicks wall hanging. That’s pretty ambitious for 5 days, don’t you think?

My project cup is now empty, but that’s not a bad thing. It simply means that I only have one thing going right now.

Christine recommends The Prosperity Game.

To increase your wealth consciousness, meaning to see the man in the moon within the realm of prosperity thinking, Christine introduced me to the Prosperity Game. It opens your mind to new possibilities and can lighten up, and enlighten up your day.

Finally, Mark’s Theory of Least Attractive Job:

This theory posits that in order to avoid the least attractive job, a person will do almost anything. In his case, rather than work on his master’s thesis, he completely landscaped the backyard. So, while the thesis took about a year longer than necessary, he and his family now enjoy a lovely backyard with entertaining area. I have applied this theory to get my ironing done, a task that becomes enticingly attractive compared to the alternative of the 30th day of writing about charisma.

The Mixonian game, the free drawing for a beautiful alpaca scarf ends TOMORROW. To enter this free drawing simply 1) click on the photo of the scarf to visit Caroline’s alpaca website and 2) send a blank email with the word “alpaca” in the subject line to

Expand Your Awareness

Yesterday, my daughters’ flight arrived from Houston almost 5 hours late. And an airport security official called to let me know that because security closed at 9, I would have to make sure I got there in time to go through security before they closed, even though the flight was not to arrive until close to midnight. The good thing is that this opportunity gave me extra time to think.

I recently learned that the Federal Express logo has an arrow in it. I had never seen it before. Now I do. And last night, on the way home, we got to see the most beautiful, exquisite moon — it was less than a half moon, and a lovely luminous pinky orange color. Christina commented, “You know, Mom, some people can’t see the man in the moon. I don’t know how that can be when he’s sooooo obvious.” I didn’t tell her, but it took me many years to see the man in the moon, and yet she’s right, he is rather obvious, once you see him.

This blog is about enlightenment and I think enlightenment is almost synonymous with expanding awareness. An enlightened person can see the man in the moon.

A prosperity mentor, Peggy McColl, has taught me that increasing the level of abundance in one’s life begins with an awareness of the prosperity that is already there, like the millions of books available for free at the public library, and the unlimited source of great ideas right here in this very house.

In her book, The 21 Distinctions of Wealth, she writes, “Most of us focus on what we lack and overlook our special gifts, qualities, and resources — whether it’s our creativity, our abundant love, our willingness to work hard, our excellent communication skills, our boundless enthusiasm, or some other quality or skill that has great value” (3).

Seeing opportunities for increasing your prosperity are right in front of you — but you’ve got to be able to see them.

If you can’t see the moon, ask yourself what could be blocking your vision. If you want other changes in your life, ask yourself why you aren’t seeing opportunities — to invest, to save, to learn, to experience. Or, you could ask the man in the moon.